MY FIRST LOVE AFFAIR: HOW IT HEALED ME

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Years ago I heard the song “The greatest love of all” by Whitney Houston. I used to love listening to it. Until one day I just thought of trying it out.

My brain told me,”It is only a song. Not gospel. You don’t start living life using pop songs.”

I was very young. Just entered college. My heart told me,”Try it out. Now is the time. Do crazy things.”

I did. Every day I would tell myself, “I love you. You are actually a wonderful person.”

This love affair became my greatest secret.

I would spend 10 minutes with myself everyday. Telling myself all the good things which I had done.

“Listen, you did an act of kindness today. You were the only one who sat with that student who had badly injured himself playing cricket. You’re a good person.”

As young people, we often come under peer pressure. We also tend to internalise what our seniors, even what our professors say about us.

One of my aunts would often tell me, “You’re very strange looking. Your face has a strange face cut.”

She would say it often and I would believe it often. I didn’t realise that this self disbelief was a cause of my extreme stage fright.

When I fell in love, I looked at the mirror one day and said

Let us analyse this feeling objectively. Firstly, is she some internationally acclaimed judge on looks? I mean just look at her. Look at her own children

Then I realised that she was jealous. I also felt empathy for her. For the first time in my life.

“You’re good looking young fellow,” I told myself

After six months I won my first national level debate.

I lost weight, became the best all-rounder in engineering college.

Try out this love affair with yourself.

It works like magic.

36 thoughts on “MY FIRST LOVE AFFAIR: HOW IT HEALED ME

  1. The idea of self-love is difficult for some people to accept. If you were never loved as a child, constantly ridiculed or neglected, it becomes necessary. Often pride and hubris will substitute for self-love, which is not actually genuine. How can you love your neighbor as yourself if you don’t value yourself? The assumption here is that we do! In heeding this loving commandment to love our neighbor, we find out quickly that we really do love ourselves! SΓΈren Kierkegaard’s book Works of Love is wonderful. You were a brave individual to undertake that exercise πŸ™‚

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  2. Aaha dear sir je
    We all know you
    With Ur affirmations, you got most beautiful lady a perfect perfect blend of beaty, brain, humble ness and what not as your wife.
    Congratulations πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰πŸŽ‰
    Thanks for your great writings…that make every one fall in love with your kind kind self.
    Thanks for selfless service to society
    You r a lamp of hope in the dark night (of present disease ).
    Warm regards

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  3. This post is so refreshing. It was not what i was expecting. I had a lol moment when you reasoned why your aunt always mentions the cut on your face. I love the pep talks. Self-love is healing. It can change how you see others around you. It can also be the force that intrinsically motivates us to accomplish our dreams.

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