THE POWER OF EMPATHIC VOICE

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Imagine speaking to someone and that person really understands what you are saying. She comprehends not just the words you speak but also your inner intent. As if you and she are connected through deeper portions of your minds and are in tune to those.

As you are about to speak, just reflect on your proposed words

Is it really what I want to convey?

Will it help me and the listener?

What will it attract?

Versions of these questions can be found in many Buddhist and Hindu teachings. Remembering to ask them will at least give you a pause, and that pause can be enough to hold back torrents of trouble.

As we engage in reflection, notice how speaking and listening become inseparable. They complete each other.

Speaking not just from your vocal cords, but from within. Listening, trying to understand.

As we become aware of speaking and listening mindfully, similar neurons light up in the brains of people so communicating.

Research in the neurobiology of empathy using functional magnetic resonance imaging demonstrates that people unconsciously mimic the actions and facial expressions of others. If a person’s hand muscle is pricked, for example, similar sensory areas are activated in the brain of the observer.

Research says that if β€˜survival of the fittest’ was the only maxim, all species would hurt and kill each other until a handful survived. But survival depends upon mutual help. Empathy is programmed into us. We only need to awaken it.

There is magic in every voice. We only need to learn how to unleash it.

All of us are waiting for such a magical blessing in our life, oblivious that we have had it since we were born.

Our speech can change and inspire the world. But those words must come from an unsullied self. When they resonate with our highest self, emanating from that silent place behind words, they have the power none can fathom.

We must allow the stillness to speak.

Because that is the source of wisdom, of empathy.

49 thoughts on “THE POWER OF EMPATHIC VOICE

  1. Great post. The information is so important. So many people are poorly skilled in true communication and listening. Many years ago I taught a team building workshop with a friend. We were working with a family owned business. They wanted to open up and hire non-family members, too, but recognized they needed help first. My friend taught a specific exercise that helped the participants learn more about truly listening and communicating from that place of listening, asking questions, striving to understand the other rather than just rushing to talk. I learned a lot from that exercise.

    I led movement exercises that exposed the old familial patterns that were keeping them from seeing each other clearly and allowing for growth and change within each other. Their outdated perceptions affected their listening and understanding each other as well, kept them held in old ways and conflicts.

    I find that sitting in my heart when I listen to another helps me hear them more clearly….not just their words but what is behind the words.

    I love the work around Love Languages, too, as it is so helpful in building more understanding and support for those in your life.

    Thanks again for your helpful posts.

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    • This is amazing Katelon. I would love to learn more about the exercises you give, the movement exercises which expose familial patterns etc. Is there a book which you’ve written and which I can buy?
      (Incidentally this post is an excerpt from my book published on Amazon)

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  2. 🦒Imagine speaking to someone and that person really understands what you are saying. She comprehends not just the words you speak but also your inner intent. As if you and she are connected through deeper portions of your minds and are in tune to those.🦒

    It just struck me as i began to read, that the approach is such a brilliant method and excercise for writing.

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  3. 🦒Research says that if β€˜survival of the fittest’ was the only maxim, all species would hurt and kill each other until a handful survived. But survival depends upon mutual help. Empathy is programmed into us. We only need to awaken it🦒

    Wow just wonderful to note that survival depended on another maxim. A beautiful and an endearing one. The other is literally killing us if we don’t watch out and stop it in it’s track. To often it is used to justify some of the most brutal onslaught against ourselves and the planet itself.

    We must come to remember that we are stupids.

    A beautifully fragrant post.
    Thanks for sharing.

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  4. I truly appreciate your post! Your opening line made me smile – what else would we need to feel acknowledged and valued? If we are all more intentional and mindful when in presence of each other, more conscious and caring about what is being said, it would make for the new earth we are all yearning for. Listening and speaking would become the same, an offering, a gift. I love the conclusion- stillness is indeed a source of our wisdom and empathy.

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    • Thank you so much. It is 0530 hrs here and what a nice thing to read.
      I must express my gratitude to you for such words.
      My teacher once told me that in the Kaliyuga there will be ignorance or darkness all around, however, there will also be selected people with a very high level of spirituality.
      Not necessarily those in ‘uniform’ but people whose closeness to the Divine will reflect in their daily conduct. Just who they are.
      From your writing I do feel that you’re one such person.
      A pleasure to read.
      πŸ™πŸ»πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜Š

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  5. I really enjoyed your post and found so many truths inside. This line, “Speaking not just from your vocal cords, but from within. Listening, trying to understand” is the key to true communication and connection. How can we really connect with others if we don’t understand this?

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