Imagine speaking to someone and that person really understands what you are saying. She comprehends not just the words you speak but also your inner intent. As if you and she are connected through deeper portions of your minds and are in tune to those.
As you are about to speak, just reflect on your proposed words
Is it really what I want to convey?
Will it help me and the listener?
What will it attract?
Versions of these questions can be found in many Buddhist and Hindu teachings. Remembering to ask them will at least give you a pause, and that pause can be enough to hold back torrents of trouble.
As we engage in reflection, notice how speaking and listening become inseparable. They complete each other.
Speaking not just from your vocal cords, but from within. Listening, trying to understand.
As we become aware of speaking and listening mindfully, similar neurons light up in the brains of people so communicating.
Research in the neurobiology of empathy using functional magnetic resonance imaging demonstrates that people unconsciously mimic the actions and facial expressions of others. If a person’s hand muscle is pricked, for example, similar sensory areas are activated in the brain of the observer.
Research says that if ‘survival of the fittest’ was the only maxim, all species would hurt and kill each other until a handful survived. But survival depends upon mutual help. Empathy is programmed into us. We only need to awaken it.
There is magic in every voice. We only need to learn how to unleash it.
All of us are waiting for such a magical blessing in our life, oblivious that we have had it since we were born.
Our speech can change and inspire the world. But those words must come from an unsullied self. When they resonate with our highest self, emanating from that silent place behind words, they have the power none can fathom.
We must allow the stillness to speak.
Because that is the source of wisdom, of empathy.